Hello,

My partner and I really want to adopt and need to find out some information on the process. How easy is it to adopt in the US, as a lesbian couple? What about internationally? Is it easier to adopt as a single woman?

We are planning to be moving back to NYC by the end of 2008 and would like to start the process as soon as possible.

I have been searching for gay adoption on the web but haven't really been able to find anything substantial. The Center's site says that articles and forums etc. on adoption will be coming soon. A forum on adoption would be a great way to converse with others that have already gone through the process.

Thanks for your help!

There are several pathways to parenthood through adoption: international, private domestic adoption, and adoption through the public system (foster-adopt).

Unfortunately, international adoption is becoming increasingly difficult for LGBT people. Recent international agreements regulating adoption practice have resulted in heightened scrutiny of prospective parents. Better minds than mine on this issue have said that for us, we should look to adopting domestically.

The good news is, the climate is very receptive stateside! There are a good many private agencies that work very openly and enthusiastically with same-sex couples, and here in New York City, the public adoption system is VERY eager to place children in our homes.

When you're back in NYC, plan to attend the Center Kids Wannabe Dads and Moms group, which is specifically for people planning adoption. The group features wonderful, informative guest speakers, and a tremendous forum for information-sharing. The facilitator, Misha Rubin, is a great guy, and the group attracts about 30 people every month. It meets on the first Thursday of the month from 8-10 p.m., and there's no need to pre-register.

Websites you might find useful: Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, Adoptive Families magazine, and the Human Rights Campaign's site (click on "the issues," then "parenting").

Feel free to write back if you hit a roadblock, or have more questions!

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